"But often, in the world's most crowded streets, / But often, in the din of strife, / There rises an unspeakable desire / After the knowledge of our buried life: / A thirst to spend our fire and restless force / In tracking out our true, original course; / A longing to inquire / Into the mystery of this heart which beats / So wild, so deep in us--to know / Whence our lives come and where they go. --Matthew Arnold, "The Buried Life"

Friday, January 27, 2012

"I Kissed Dating Goodbye" by Joshua Harris

I Kissed Dating Goodbye if one of the best books on romance, purity, and disciplined, God-honoring relationships for young people out there. Josh Harris is a master at effectively communicating his passion for the lost and confused in the dating scene, those curious about the whole argument for courtship vs. dating, and the 'technical virginity' mentality. And in our media-saturated culture, which esteems the temporal feel-good, just-do-it ethic, Josh's maturity and wisdom is sorely needed.


This book should be read by anyone who is in a relationship, wanting to get into one, or struggling in a less than savory one. The book is filled with humorous anecdotes, true-life circumstances and scenarios, and convicting questions to get the reader thinking about priorities in relationships. It's not set up as a how-to book or one of those 'For Dummies' books, with a list of questions at the end of every chapter, but rather as a young man sincerely pouring his passion for Christ, and exhortations to stay pure and faithful to God, with every written page.


Besides pinpointing, describing, and prescribing the Deadly Habits of Defective Dating, Josh delves into uncomfortable topics with tenderness but firmness, describing how simple infatuation can become a sinful reaction to pure interest about a person, pitfalls of both genders, compromising situations best left avoided, and lies that we as single (and married!) people feel compelled to fall into. Josh never, at any point in his narrative, puts himself or his experience on a foreign, elitist climate. We feel as though we are being invited to partake of glory that comes not from Josh, but from the Father Who created sex and relationships to reflect Him.


You do not have to be in a relationship or even on the lookout for one; this book does a great job of being all-inclusive, touching on every circumstance with fruitful evidence and remedies, while never sounding like a cheapy self-help book. I would encourage this book for anyone, married, single, or just plain confused. We are all invited to the feast.


(I received this book for free from Waterbrook-Multnomah. Purchase this book on Amazon or WBM.)

4 comments:

  1. Sounds like an interesting book. Great review! :O)

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  2. You might find my blog of interest where I critique Josh Harris's book.

    www.ikdg.wordpress.com
    I Kissed Dating Goodbye: Wisdom or Foolishness?

    Unfortunately Josh Harris is quick to point out the problems with dating but reluctant to share any of the problems with his approach.

    Hope this helps.

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  3. I'm glad that you read and enjoyed this book!

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  4. An incredible book that keeps you in focus, and changes the way you look at dating and relationships, and even life in general. I read half-way through the book and realized this one is different. I've never dated, but this book has helped me even look at life in a different perspective.

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